"The most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention…. A loving silence often has far more power to heal and to connect than the most well-intentioned words."
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"An enemy is one whose story we have not heard."
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"I was in the presence of such incredible and diverse women, all of whom shared their dreams and their nightmares. I watched, and participated, as 39 women joined forces to aid one woman through a difficult or beautiful revelation. I listened as women told secrets they had never shared before because there was so much trust and understanding hovering in the room. I shared my own experiences with them as well. We laughed and we cried. "
                                                                                                   --Regan, The Woolgatherer


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Larry Yang in Conversation with Raphael Cushnir - Parts 1&2

This interview with Larry Yang is from the online audio series, "Teaching What We Need To Learn," in which a wide array of leaders in personal growth and spirituality share their own innermost challenges. The series is hosted by author and teacher Raphael Cushnir

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Empathy Documentary Project: Insights into Empathy - Miki Kashtan
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Story as Entry to Relationship
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"Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for silence.
A time to let go and allow people to hurl themselves into their own destiny. And a time to prepare to pick up the pieces when it’s all over."

                                                                                                      --Octavia Butler



"Generally speaking, the first nonviolent act is not fasting, but dialogue. The other side, the adversary, is recognized as a person, he is taken out of his anonymity and exists in his own right... To engage someone in dialogue is to recognize him, have faith in him. At every step in the nonviolent struggle, at every level we try tirelessly to establish a dialogue, or reestablish it if it has broken down."
  --Hildegard Goos-Mayr






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How to Make a Decision Without Making a Decision

Electronic Discussion on Group Facilitation




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"How do I listen to others?
As if everyone were my Master speaking to me
His cherished last words."

-- Hafiz (1320-1389, Persia), Sufi mystic and poet



Five questions to focus conscious evolutionaries

Deepak Chopra

What kind of world do I want to live in, and what kind of world do I want for my children and their children?

What is my role or contribution in bringing about this world?

If I am part of an organization and I am the leader of the organization, what kind of team do I want to have and what is my relationship with this team?

Where do I belong in this larger network of conversation that we are having right now?

What do I feel is the need of the moment, and what do I see as the solution of the moment?





"We just keep talking until there's nothing left but the obvious truth."
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              Onondaga Iroquois, said of his tribal council tradition



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"On Friday night, we broke into three groups (of eight participants and one facilitator each) to discuss such questions as, What did you understand about being an American when you were 12 years old? How have you experienced political differences and how did that affect you personally?

It was impossible to participate in that exercise without coming to see (and feel and know) that every participant, whatever their politics, was a complex and caring human being."


"But the end result of that conversation is we all realized -- I mean, we all really “got” -- how misleading and even infantilizing the old political spectrum had become."


"Before leaving, we all signed our names to a document titled “We the People.” Many of us signed with flourishes, as if we were signing something akin to the Declaration of Independence. Here are the key passages:

       “We respect our differences and recognize America needs every one of our viewpoints, ideas, and passions -- even those we don’t agree with -- to keep our democracy vital and alive;

       “We recognize that meeting here and across our land for dialogues across differences builds trust, understanding, respect, and empowerment -- the conditions necessary for freedom and democracy to live in us and around us;

       “And, therefore, each still grounded in our own considered views (conscience and convictions), we commit ourselves and our communities of interest to foster dialogue across the many divides in America, in large and small groups, to build trust, insight, and inspired action toward the more perfect union we all desire” "


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"If we could read the secret history of our enemies, we should find in each man's life sorrow and suffering enough to disarm all hostility."
                                                                                    -- Henry Wadsworth Longfellow (1807-1882)


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